You did it! You finally nailed down a date with that sexy, awesome chubby guy you’ve been chasing. The pressure’s on not to blow it. But where do you set your first date together? Here’s 9 places to steer clear of!

1. Anywhere with outdoor plastic chairs

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You see those arms there on those white plastic chairs? They are every chubby dude’s worst enemy. Enough outward force from the legs (aka a big guy sitting normally) will eventually cause them to snap. If you want to eat outside, do some research and make sure the place has sturdier seating. Yelp photos are a great way to start your research.

2. H&M (or any mainstream clothing store)

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You’re a smaller guy, so this mistake can be forgiven, but don’t forget that at almost any mainstream clothing company, there will be nothing that comes even close to fitting a properly chubby guy. He will become bored quickly. Unless you’re willing to swing by a Casual Male or DXL, skip the clothes shopping-date altogether. It shows you care about HIM.

3. Anywhere with tight booths

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Many big guys can squeeze into a booth no problem. But some booths are built just too tight for even a moderately chubby guy. If possible, try to avoid booths altogether. If the booth is a must, first see if there’s enough room for a bigger guy. Eyeball another booth and see how much space those people have. Also, check to see if the table is moveable. If space is tight and the table doesn’t move, spare your date the scene of trying to squeeze a square peg in a round hole—and find another establishment.

4. That super chic, gay, sceney place in your city

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Every city has that bar/restaurant/neighborhood. The one where the anorexic skinny gay boys come to see and be seen. While you might be able to blend in, your chubby date most definitely won’t. Some big guys have the confidence and ease to make it all work, but some will feel exposed and vulnerable in that kind of setting. Don’t force an overly-chic setting on a big guy—let him lead, or start with something a little less sceney.

5. A buffet

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Do big guys like to eat? Of course they do! Are many chubby fellas a bit self-conscious about their eating habits? Definitely. Don’t send the wrong message on the first date. Unless he proposes it, skip buffets until you know each other better and he’s more comfortable with you seeing his normal eating habits.

6. Lots of walking without breaks

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Many chubby guys are in pretty good shape, but you need to be aware that their feet are carrying a bigger load than yours. By all means, take a stroll along the beach or visit that museum, but be aware if the adventure you’ve planned might be pushing him more than he’s comfortable with and make sure he gets plenty of opportunities to stop and rest his feet. Those stops can also be a great time to steal a kiss 😉

7. That party with all your chub/bear friends and exes

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Who doesn’t love a good party with all your friends and/or exes? Well a first date might not. This one is a pretty universal piece of advice, but especially considering how small the bear/chub communities are (and how much inter-friend dating there is), a party with friends (and exes) might be a bit overwhelming for a first date. Save that experience until you’re more comfortable with each other.

8. Places that are too hot

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For many big guys, the extra weight generates extra heat—which can make them the perfect winter cuddle-buddies, but can make summers a sweaty, uncomfortable experience. If you’re planning an outdoor date and it’s going to be hot and/or humid, try to find some places with air-conditioning that can break up the heat. Even a quick stopover at Starbucks can take your date from sweaty disaster to the start of something beautiful.

9. Your apartment

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Yes it’s spacious and air conditioned. Yes you have a comfortable couch and no plastic chairs. Yes it’s a sure way not to commit the sins of 1 through 8 on this list. But your apartment is not the right place for a first date with a chubby boy. If you’re in this for a real date, don’t send the wrong message by starting your date 10 feet from your bedroom (even if your intentions are pure). There will be plenty of dates on which you can dazzle him with your cooking and interior decorating abilities. The first date isn’t it.

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